How to Overcome the Fear of Forgetting a Loved One

By 27 October 2020

How to Overcome the Fear of Forgetting a Loved One

Fear of forgetting a departed loved one is a natural experience long after their passing, so you shouldn't feel ashamed. Oftentimes, we mistakenly identify letting go with forgetting. You can do the former without experiencing the latter. You will never truly forget anyone in your past. You can only make peace with their departure, and realize that you have to move on with your own life. Your memories of them will always live on in various ways, such as creating a Memories Timeline dedicated to their life and times, or a video tribute. In this article, we'll talk about some of the ways to overcome the fear of forgetting a loved one.

1. Celebrate Their Life

Each time you feel lonely or sad, remember and celebrate the good memories you have of your departed loved one. A tribute photo book, a Memories Timeline, or a memorial video dedicated to your loved one will help you immortalize their presence in your memory.

With a dedicated website such as a Memories Timeline, your loved one's family, friends and acquaintances may continually contribute the fond memories they have about the person. They may even continue sending the messages, an expression of the care or love they have for a loved one who has passed away. Immediate family and relatives will find this very comforting and inspiring as they will be able to see how their departed loved one has touched the lives of others.

2. Support Causes Your Loved One Championed

One way to honor the dearly departed and keep them in your memory is to support the causes he or she believed in. For example, if your loved one was an advocate of animal rights, then perhaps you can donate or contribute to an animal rights program under their name. The contribution doesn’t always have to be monetary—you can also volunteer. Doing so is just like continuing the legacy of a loved one who has passed away. It’s a positive way to remember the life he or she has lived.

3. Take Up Journaling

You can take up journaling, whether by hand or through blogging, in order to tell stories about your departed loved one, or express deep emotions you've suppressed regarding their passing. Journaling will not only be an effective way to keep your loved one's memories alive, it will be therapeutic for you as well.

Journaling is the act of capturing memories in the same way pressing the shutter button on a camera "freezes" time. This is one of the reasons why companies like Moleskine have gained popularity over the past decade. People have the urge to put pen to paper. They want to record their memories in a more natural and fluid way, with the mind racing and the pen gliding across the paper like an Olympic figure skater. Writing by hand is a feeling that typing on the laptop or tapping the screen of a phone can't replicate.

However, if you're a digital native, and would still prefer blogging, there are better alternatives, more private ones, than WordPress, Tumblr, or Blogspot. Unless you trust your network on social media, I personally would not be comfortable sharing personal thoughts on platforms like Facebook, which is notorious for privacy protection, or Twitter and Instagram. So, what's an alternative solution?

You can create a Memories Timeline that will not only securely host all of the wonderful memories you have of your loved one, you can even use a Memories Timeline to collaborate with close friends and loved ones, so that everyone gets a chance to tell their own memories.

4. Revisit the Places They Loved

Visit to the places that your dearly departed loved to visit when he or she was still alive. Take a walk or take a moment to recapture the things the person enjoyed doing in these places. You can also practice mindfulness exercises here to help you calm feelings of stress and anxiety that may go with grief.

This is the perfect time to reflect on and gently confront your fears of forgetting your loved one. Think about why these fears arise and contemplate the nature of time and memory. In particular, think about the transitory nature of life and the immortal nature of memories. Even if someone has passed on to the next life long ago, their memory still lives on. The fact that you're visiting a place they loved during their lifetime is proof of that. They are in the rustling of trees, the wind, the sunshine, the laughter of children at a park.

5. Name a Star After Them

Yes, you can name a star after a person. The International Star Registry records the star’s name and publishes it in a listing of named stars in the world. It will remind you of your loved one every time you look up at the twinkling stars in the night sky.

Conclusion

As you can see, there are many ways you can do to over come the fear of forgetting a departed loved one, whether it's an activity you can take on or a more spiritual process of introspection. However you choose to cope with their passing, remember that there is no wrong answer or path. What's important is that you cherish your loved one's memory whilst accepting the fact that your own life has to move on.